On November 24, 2015 my mother was rushed to the hospital. She had a brain aneryesum.
They cut off her clothes, panties and bra. They handed me her shoes, necklace, earrings and rings.
That moment was surreal. It hit me like a ton of bricks.
I looked at each of those items in my hand and they held no real value. What I wanted was my mother. I wanted to hear her voice and feel her. I know it’s cliche but that’s when I really understood that you can’t take worldly possessions with you.
It was really at that time that I whole heartedly committed myself to living a minimalist life.
For the first time in my life I can give stuff away. For a long time I was attached to my clothes, shoes, accessories, hair, everything that I thought represented who I was. Materialism consumed me. I would hold on to items that served no purpose in my life. I just purchased items because I liked it at that moment and I could afford it.
And in the end I found myself drowning in stuff that I didn’t even like or use.
Ever since last year, I have been trying to get rid of stuff but I was never able to committ to becoming a minimalist. Giving my stuff away pained me. It felt like I was throwing away a memory. Every item felt like a piece of me. The fact that I owned that item at one time in my life made me think that it was special to me. When in fact it wasn’t. It was just a dress that I wore on my birthday. It held no true memories, I hold those memories and they are forever stored in my heart and mind.
In late December, I finally looked at my bags of stuff and said, “gets to stepping”. #MartinVoice
I went to Plato’s Closet and Rumors Boutique and I made over $100. I already told myself that I was getting rid of these items and I was open to accepting as low as $2 for most of my stuff. I did not want to go back home with all my stuff and I didn’t. I just let it go and I felt relieved that I wasn’t going home with all of those bags. All I have left from my first purge is a small bag that I’m going to donate.
My removal process is to first try to sell. My online preference is PoshMart. And as stated before I also sell to stores. If I can’t get rid of my items that way I donate them to either my sister, my niece or a thrift store.
Now I have to comb through my clothes once more, go through my jewelry, comb through my shoes again and look at my handbags. If I don’t use it, it has got to go.
I don’t have a magic number of items I want. I just want to love and use everything I own.
Here’s to simple living.